Don't you just hate that feeling of running into someone and knowing absolutely that you should know their name but you just can't quite remember it? I know I do. So what is the proper etiquette for blundering around someone's name?
There is nothing wrong with flat out saying, "I'm sorry. I have forgotten your name." It should, of course, be accompanied by a suitably apologetic look. If it is someone you only met once or twice, this will work fine. If it is someone you have met several times, you may want to go a step further and give them what details you do remember so as to minimize the feeling that they are completely forgettable. For instance, "I know we met at my aunt's bbq last summer." Also feel free to stress that it is your fault by saying something like, "I have a terrible memory for names."
You can always attempt the subtle maneuver by introducing someone else. For instance, "Have you meet my husband, John?". Then wait for them to respond such as, "Hi John. I'm Sally." This could backfire as it is a commonly known trick. The other person may also wait for you to properly finish the introduction by saying, "John, this is Sally."
Some people will be offended; some people will shrug it off. If you find you have offended someone, apologize sincerely. Make a note of their name and try to move the conversation along.
You may want to try to make an extra effort to remember the name. You can try memory tricks such as rhyming the name with something about them such as Sally from the Valley. You can try repeating the name several times when you are first introduced. "Hello Sally. It is nice to meet you Sally." could start the conversation and "It was nice speaking with you Sally" could end it. Your brain finds it easier to remember something 3 times.
As always, if you make a mistake, feel free to say sorry and move on.
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